I Remember Her

It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80’s arrived at the hospital to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am. The nurse took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor’s appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I inquired as to her health.

He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer’s Disease. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late.

He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now. I was surprised, and asked him, ‘And you still go every morning, even though she doesn’t know who you are?’

He smiled As he patted my hand and said,
‘She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.’

27 thoughts on “I Remember Her

  1. This makes me cry….I know a time will come that my Mom will not know me any longer…I want to remember this if that should come to pass!


  2. This made me cry. Alzheimer is horrible. Seeing my granny suffer from it was the worst thing I ever experienced. When she finally didn’t recognize us anymore… Can’t describe how sad we were and how hard it was.


  3. My friend has a neighbor. His wife has this disease. She is in a home. She doesn’t really remember who he is. All the same, she co-operates with him because he is a constant in her life. Every morning he goes and feeds her (she’s kind of forgotten how to do this simple thing called eating) , he helps her get dressed, he takes her for a walk outside, and then they go visit others in the home.

    The amazing part to me is this: when he is asked about her, his eyes and face lights up like a man still crazy in love after all these years. He brags about her good qualities. He talks about the care like it’s such a joy and privilege.

    That is what love is.


  4. Camila, I cried like a baby when I read this. I’ve been (very) happily married for 32 years and this spoke to me so much more than anything I can ever think of as to what that is all about. Thanks for the lovely post.


    • Hey Richard,

      It’s so precious for me to know that these words are touching someone else’s heart too. I do believe in true love, I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years now and luckily I found my true love.

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting,
      Love, Camila Lima


  5. True love knows no bounds…knows no limits…I have been blessed to know true love twice..first was severed by death, now I am loved, and love a wonderful man who also lost his true love to death…I pray we will have this ongoing commitment and love for each other till time is over for us. Thanks for sharing.


  6. Life is just so short!! This is a love that would still last a life time!!!
    Where is that kinda love and compassion and dedication and commitment and loyalty too one vows???
    This story should be burned into every couples hearts, minds and souls, before they even say “I Do”…
    This is not a fairytale fantasy, this could be all our here and now realitys..
    Its all about making a choice and keeping to our WORDS ” vows” and living what we say… I Have a husband who despite all my medical problems ( due to hitting my head in a car accident, where a lady plowed into to us when we were at a red light) i now have multiple seizures daily, my equilibrium is messed up and I have to hold on to him to keep myself from falling over,and i have lost about 1/8 of my vision in my right eye.. i also have gained over 50 lbs due to medications… ( as for me i am a trainwreck)
    But he lives his VOWS every day and
    will not just throw me away like.YESTERDAYS TRASH!!!
    IF it wss him i surely would do the same!!!!
    We are both in our 40’s so this
    generation cando it!!!!!
    I. Love you baby!!! ♥


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